The Case of the Missing Rings

Its 3a.m. on a Saturday morning and I'm still awake. And random posts like this are the reason I renamed by blog "Epic Musings", because I am musing, and I think its quite epic.

So the case of the missing rings. I am noticing the Missing Rings more often than I'd like. You know the ring I'm talking about....from the left ring finger??? of many very successful motivated women(lawyers & other professionals). As a law student, I often attend firm receptions and on campus firm events and I don't know what it is about these firms that makes the women stay unmarried (especially the women whose skin tones are similar to mine). Now don't get me wrong,I do encounter many married women who work at firms, some with children, in fact, I recently interviewed with one where the lady was a woman of color and mentioned her attorney husband.

Is it the long hours? The motivation coupled with being intimidating? Is it an over-powering drive that forces women to choose between career and family? Is it (for minority women) a desire to only date within their race coupled with the unequal numbers of male to female minorities in high-paying careers?

I wish I had the answer. I say this as a soon to be lawyer, who is very single and desires to have a husband and a family in the near future, I am concerned. Granted, everyone's path is different, we all have our lives to live, and there isn't a formula that promises to yield all the things I want: Career Stability and Success, Family, Work/Life Balance and what not. I look forward to figuring that as I go. May God help me!