I just had a moment today, and decided to blog about it. I am usually less impulsive about my blog posts, but everyone is allowed their 5 seconds of madness....right?
I get really angry when people try to tell me to lower my standards about who and what I want to end up with as if it Impossible. Yes, Im 21 and would like to someday get married, but knowing what I know about what my ideal road to marriage looks like, I have come to the conclusion that the "someday" may be a LONG time from now. And for now, I am okay with that. It really bothers me that other people seem to be unable to respect that even though how I envision going from Meet to Friendship to dating to engaged and married will go is untraditional yet very traditional and old school in a sense. I don't want to go into too much detail about what I want, BUT, its very easy to see (on the days I choose to be objective) when I don't see those things in a person or situation.
A friend is getting married in a month and I went to their wedding page and read their "Our Story" and was almost moved to tears because it mirrors what I want so YES, even if I have to wait till I'm 48 to get married, if its to the right man, then its 48 years too short.
Because other people's standards are different and in some cases, lower, doesn't mean I need to give in on the things I don't want. The way I see it, the things you want in a spouse (as long as they are not clearly unreasonable)should closer to a multiple choice LSAT test question and less like an open ended question. Let me explain. In an open ended test question, especially if you are a student like me, that question gives you a bit of room to do what you want with the answer, it can go in different direction, so that means that question was designed to fit a numerous possibilities of right answer. But in a multiple choice test question, while some of the other options look good, some are outright WRONG, and then there is one that fits the best. So, if the things a person wants in a spouse only happen to bracket in a few men in the country, so be it. If the goal is to keep it as open as possible then my list would look something like this
Things I want in a husband
1. A male human born before 1989.
Anyway, agree or disagree, I just want people to stop being negative and telling me what I can or cannot find.
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oh Ayo...lol
ReplyDeleteGIRL!!!!!!!!!!!! PEOPLE
ReplyDeleteLOL at born before 1989. I see your point though. Don't lower your standards especially in choosing a partner. It usually has an undesirable domino effect. All the best, Ayo!
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