Troy's a loner and Ayo doesnt like hugs.

I found out about the 5 love languages a few years ago, and I thoroughly enjoy telling my friends about it, because it sorta opens up a whole new world and insight on their relationships.

SO, it was 3a.m. and we (myself, Nulia and Troy) had just gotten back from 6th Street, and started randomly talking about the difference between Men and women and some of the communication roadblocks.

Of course I didn't come up with the 5 love languages, Dr Gary Chapman did, and is making a lot of money on his book on the topic.
The central idea is though that most people have their preferred manner of being shown love, The five listed include
Acts of Service,
Physical Touch,
Gifts,
Quality Time,
Words of Affirmation.

I personally think that it is REALLY important to know how the people you love, friends family and whatnot communicate their love because its like a real language. If a guy is a dating a girl who is a Words of Affirmation person, and he keeps buying her gifts, because that's his language, he may think he is communicating his love, but he might not be understood. It'd be like speaking to a Vietnamese person in Mandarin, you may thing you're communicating, but unless he's bilingual, you are not.

But, when these 2 people sit down and talk about how they receive and give love, then they can be able to find an acceptable meeting point, to where he says more I love Yous for her satisfaction, and she can transcribe his gift bringing nature as LOVE.

So, with that being said, Troy and I were citing that we were both Quality Time people, and I added that people also love themselves in the way they show love, so QT people CHERISH their time alone, and Troy says, "Yes, I am a loner" and it probably was the most mind blowing statement of the night to Nulia (who has been very good friends with him for over 3yrs) because some of the stuff he says and does MAKES SENSE.

I also had to explain why someone who is NOT a Physical Touch person (me) gives hugs. {I adapt to the people around me who I love and a few of my friends are Physical Touch people, so I have to hug them and all that extra!}

The overall point of this tale is to make an effort to understand the people you love and how to make sure they KNOW you love them.