Wednesday, February 8, 2012

SOULMATES...............?

I, like most women my age grew up fantasizing about the concept of a "soulmate" or the concept of finding "the one." Between Cinderella, Pretty Woman and similar themed movies, I dont think we are to blame. But I am now a little older and I recently got a completely new perspective on this topic. For me, more specifically, I am a former subscriber to this notion that in all of the world, there is ONE GUY whom I will one day meet, and everything will just make sense, he will LOVE AND ADORE everything about me, even the weird and slightly creepy stuff. He would be my....soulmate. And of course rises the question, where is he? Because if the ONE was living in a small uncivilized people group in southern Australia, I might be doomed to search forever. And here is a few reasons why this idea is so prevalent: 1. It makes us feel warm and fuzzy. 2. It leaves us exactly the way we are. No reason to ever improve myself because my "soulmate" will find me PERFECT the way I am. 3. It gives us an easy cop out/escape route for when things get hard. This is one of the reasons why people accept divorce, because who is going to argue with a reason like "turns out she/he wasn't my soulmate" The problem is....... this is misleading. At least in my opinion. When two people meet and decide to get married, and they are both seeking God and Holiness together, being soulmates... is not a requirement, even being romantically in love with the butterflies in their tummy is not a requirement. The requirement is that they Love God and are committed to Him, and they love one another, which is easy because if they are both Christians they are required to love all people anyway. I also havent seen anything in the bible that supports this idea. (Even though I am young and very single)I believe that marriage is a unique miracle where you have 2 different people with different ideas and experiences, uniting and becoming one, and raising a family together. I think it is incredible, therefore incredibly difficult, and the very idea of having a soulmate to me, takes away from that, making people believe that if its the right person you won't have to work hard at ANYTHING AT ALL. #LIES In the interest of keeping it short and sweet, thats all I will say on the topic. I am Ayo and I no longer believe in a soulmates. Feel free to comment on this article...do you agree...... disagree...why?