Tuesday, July 9, 2013

Does he have to wear his ring??

It is crazy to me when I see men who are married who dont wear their wedding rings. I dont understand it at all. Like, WHY. I mean, I understand that Men should do the approaching, so ring or no ring, he can approach women, and 2, women should wear their rings to avoid the risk of unsuspecting men approaching them. STILL none of these make it reasonable for a guy not to wear his wedding ring.

WHOMEVER my husband is (if I have one....) better know the day I catch him running around town without his wedding ring is the day I...... I dont event know what to say, I guess it'll be a big fight!

Thats all for me on this short topic.

BUT are you serious tho?

Short Post about Guys:

I was at an event this weekend where a discussion was happening about men and women relationships, the usual suspects came up..... Men dont approach women....Women are intimidating...Women dont seem available....Women need to make moves too... and whatever else you can come up with, so my friend who is moreso a big brother gets up there while his wife was speaking and said something to the tune of "Oh, I didnt think y'all were serious." In reference to the entire conversation because he couldn't take the people in the audience and who had spoken (of which, I admit, I was one) seriously because, it wasn't clear that people were really looking for anything long term. Or at least serious about it. So of course I've been thinking about it and my conclusion is this WOMEN HAVE A TALENT FOR KNOWING WHEN A GUY IS SERIOUS AND WHEN HE IS NOT. The difference is how we act about it. Some women will sit around waiting for him to become serious. Some are satisfied with less than serious because, at least they've got a man.
And when I say serious, I mean about his life, his future, the purpose of pursuing a woman, a relationship, what he wants in a wife, all these things are apparent quicker than men realize.

Now, I realize Im probably generalizing, but in my experience I usually very quickly shrug off the guys who I know are not serious. Its something about not having someone waste your time. If you are not really serious about what you want out of your life and a relationship with me, you will get slid off into a zone of casual friendship. I don't know exactly what the tell is, maybe its the "What are you wearing" questions or the numerous conversations that aren't really about anything of substance.
I say this because I know theres a few things I need to know about someone attempting to get one of my most valued possessions (my time). And when a guy isn't interested in getting answers to similar things that he should want to know about me, if he's curious about long term, I am put on alert about his seriousness or lack of.

Im not saying you need to have a 12 steps to marriage plan with every woman you interact with, but I have trouble believing that a guy will just meet a girl and THEN he becomes ready for marriage. I believe that more guys sort of make that decision in their mind before any phenomenal woman walks into their lives. This is why I think we hear of stories where a man dates a woman for 5...7years, she wants marriage, he doesnt, she gives him an ultimatum, he walks, Or he says hes not ready for all that, and then the next woman he dates for...6months and marries. I think that decision has to happen in his head without any prodding or pushing.

So my advice is, Quickly evaluate if a guy is serious or not. If it appears he is not, QUICKLY move on. You're better off without him. Until a guy is serious, every woman he comes in contact with will be PURPOSELY wasting her time with him