Friday, March 25, 2011
Saturday, March 19, 2011
Troy's a loner and Ayo doesnt like hugs.
I found out about the 5 love languages a few years ago, and I thoroughly enjoy telling my friends about it, because it sorta opens up a whole new world and insight on their relationships.
SO, it was 3a.m. and we (myself, Nulia and Troy) had just gotten back from 6th Street, and started randomly talking about the difference between Men and women and some of the communication roadblocks.
Of course I didn't come up with the 5 love languages, Dr Gary Chapman did, and is making a lot of money on his book on the topic.
The central idea is though that most people have their preferred manner of being shown love, The five listed include
Acts of Service,
Physical Touch,
Gifts,
Quality Time,
Words of Affirmation.
I personally think that it is REALLY important to know how the people you love, friends family and whatnot communicate their love because its like a real language. If a guy is a dating a girl who is a Words of Affirmation person, and he keeps buying her gifts, because that's his language, he may think he is communicating his love, but he might not be understood. It'd be like speaking to a Vietnamese person in Mandarin, you may thing you're communicating, but unless he's bilingual, you are not.
But, when these 2 people sit down and talk about how they receive and give love, then they can be able to find an acceptable meeting point, to where he says more I love Yous for her satisfaction, and she can transcribe his gift bringing nature as LOVE.
So, with that being said, Troy and I were citing that we were both Quality Time people, and I added that people also love themselves in the way they show love, so QT people CHERISH their time alone, and Troy says, "Yes, I am a loner" and it probably was the most mind blowing statement of the night to Nulia (who has been very good friends with him for over 3yrs) because some of the stuff he says and does MAKES SENSE.
I also had to explain why someone who is NOT a Physical Touch person (me) gives hugs. {I adapt to the people around me who I love and a few of my friends are Physical Touch people, so I have to hug them and all that extra!}
The overall point of this tale is to make an effort to understand the people you love and how to make sure they KNOW you love them.
SO, it was 3a.m. and we (myself, Nulia and Troy) had just gotten back from 6th Street, and started randomly talking about the difference between Men and women and some of the communication roadblocks.
Of course I didn't come up with the 5 love languages, Dr Gary Chapman did, and is making a lot of money on his book on the topic.
The central idea is though that most people have their preferred manner of being shown love, The five listed include
Acts of Service,
Physical Touch,
Gifts,
Quality Time,
Words of Affirmation.
I personally think that it is REALLY important to know how the people you love, friends family and whatnot communicate their love because its like a real language. If a guy is a dating a girl who is a Words of Affirmation person, and he keeps buying her gifts, because that's his language, he may think he is communicating his love, but he might not be understood. It'd be like speaking to a Vietnamese person in Mandarin, you may thing you're communicating, but unless he's bilingual, you are not.
But, when these 2 people sit down and talk about how they receive and give love, then they can be able to find an acceptable meeting point, to where he says more I love Yous for her satisfaction, and she can transcribe his gift bringing nature as LOVE.
So, with that being said, Troy and I were citing that we were both Quality Time people, and I added that people also love themselves in the way they show love, so QT people CHERISH their time alone, and Troy says, "Yes, I am a loner" and it probably was the most mind blowing statement of the night to Nulia (who has been very good friends with him for over 3yrs) because some of the stuff he says and does MAKES SENSE.
I also had to explain why someone who is NOT a Physical Touch person (me) gives hugs. {I adapt to the people around me who I love and a few of my friends are Physical Touch people, so I have to hug them and all that extra!}
The overall point of this tale is to make an effort to understand the people you love and how to make sure they KNOW you love them.
Saturday, March 5, 2011
UPDATE!!!!
Its been a minute since I updated, for which I sincerely apologize! I have been busy, while not TOO busy to update my blog, but also I haven't had much to say.
UPDATES:
May 14, 2011 I am graduating from my beloved Sam Houston State University at 9:30a.m.
I am SO DARN excited!
LAst weekend I got to catch up with some Bearkat family at TAMU ASA #THISTIMEFORAFRICA event! It was pretty much a mix between happy and sad, because I was so happy to see everyone and be a pseudo-college student again, but then SUPER SAD because I knew it was very temporary, and after the weekend I'd be back to #LIFEOFANADULT! LOL! I MISS my roommate NANCY Iyoha like crazzzy! And really everyone else in SHSU ASA, Miss Holly, JJ, Davina, CHIMA, LIL JERRY, AHMED, VANESSA, and just the whole crew. You all make me smile!!!
What else is there to update on: Internship is going! Keeping pretty busy, learning a LOT! I feel like with my internship, I get to be in different WORLDS every day with all the different concerns people have! I think that is my favorite thing so far! And I LOVE meeting people and making friends, Even though its hard to really define someone as a friend if you've only known them for 6weeks, cuz y'all know how PEOPLE are.
WHAT ELSE?
Hmm with graduation comes many concerns, and a huge part of it is $$$$$$$$. I'm not necessarily sitting up WORRIED about it cuz I know God's got it all figured out, but i think about it sometimes, I have less that $700 to last me the rest of my internship, rent not included! Which is DEFINITELY accomplishable, (I bet that is not a word); BUT, Its not as though internship ends one day, the next day I have $$$ coming in! I wish it were, but, I doubt it! SO, Gotta pretty much start figuring out what I WANT to be doing, and how to do that, with no $$!
We'll see how it all turns out.
UPDATES:
May 14, 2011 I am graduating from my beloved Sam Houston State University at 9:30a.m.
I am SO DARN excited!
LAst weekend I got to catch up with some Bearkat family at TAMU ASA #THISTIMEFORAFRICA event! It was pretty much a mix between happy and sad, because I was so happy to see everyone and be a pseudo-college student again, but then SUPER SAD because I knew it was very temporary, and after the weekend I'd be back to #LIFEOFANADULT! LOL! I MISS my roommate NANCY Iyoha like crazzzy! And really everyone else in SHSU ASA, Miss Holly, JJ, Davina, CHIMA, LIL JERRY, AHMED, VANESSA, and just the whole crew. You all make me smile!!!
What else is there to update on: Internship is going! Keeping pretty busy, learning a LOT! I feel like with my internship, I get to be in different WORLDS every day with all the different concerns people have! I think that is my favorite thing so far! And I LOVE meeting people and making friends, Even though its hard to really define someone as a friend if you've only known them for 6weeks, cuz y'all know how PEOPLE are.
WHAT ELSE?
Hmm with graduation comes many concerns, and a huge part of it is $$$$$$$$. I'm not necessarily sitting up WORRIED about it cuz I know God's got it all figured out, but i think about it sometimes, I have less that $700 to last me the rest of my internship, rent not included! Which is DEFINITELY accomplishable, (I bet that is not a word); BUT, Its not as though internship ends one day, the next day I have $$$ coming in! I wish it were, but, I doubt it! SO, Gotta pretty much start figuring out what I WANT to be doing, and how to do that, with no $$!
We'll see how it all turns out.
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